Why is My Marriage So Hard?

how our relationships with others reflects our relationship with God...

You are wondering: Why is my marriage so hard? (I’m going to get to this in a second, and you’ll need to hang with me here. I know that if your marriage is so hard you are grasping at anything, you’re going to want to read this AND stick it out to the bottom – […]

Feeling Unappreciated?

aka "how not to get stuck in misery"

Feeling Unappreciated? I have a friend who is seeing a marriage counselor because her marriage is hard. She shared recently with me what she considered a “really small incident” that represents a ton of others. One morning she rose early, made her husband’s lunch for him (usually he made it himself because he leaves really […]

How to avoid feeling shame …

Ever have someone shame you? It’s an awful feeling, don’t you think? The face-flushing, guilty-headache, hot-cheeked, where’s-the-door-right-Now? feeling that stinks like no other. And you may not consider yourself someone who dumps shame on others – I certainly didn’t think of myself that way – but if we’ve ever begun a sentence with, “How could […]

Why your husband no longer respects YOU…

To think about why your husband no longer respects you is painful. I’m sorry. But you’ve noticed it, right? The disrespect shows up in small ways… and big ones. A look of disdain here… The curved lip of contempt there… Dishes left out for “someone else” to do… same with the dirty laundry… Opinions ignored, […]

When Girls Demonstrate Self Respect …

When Girls Demonstrate Self Respect … As raw and risky as it is to admit, there’s a small part of me eagerly waiting for the day about a decade or more from now when I notice that my daughter and I are just friends. And I say, “just friends,” because the carpooling to play practices, voice lessons, […]

How to mess up your marriage…

A few people near and dear to me are getting married soon – and I wanted to encourage them (and us all) by sharing our “best advice” and those things that really can mess up your marriage. I’d love you to join in with your suggestions in the comments today. Remember, we don’t give advice […]

We Will Never Know…

Romans 11:33-36 Doxology 33 Oh, the depth of the riches of the wisdom and knowledge of God! How unsearchable his judgments, and his paths beyond tracing out!  34 “Who has known the mind of the Lord? Or who has been his counselor?”  35 “Who has ever given to God, that God should repay him?”  36 […]