3 Tips to Finding Joy in Suffering

At first, it’s a choice – a choice to

Sitting in the sanctuary with about 1000 people yesterday during "open mic," I prayed, "If you want me to say something, Lord, You'll need to calm my heart. I really don't want to get up and do this." I seldom get nervous about speaking in public, but for some reason, He and I sometimes have the Continue Reading

What Are YOU Waiting For?

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My mind was elsewhere, and I looked at her. I saw my friend and coworker's mouth moving, and couldn't answer the question she was asking. It was something about upcoming possibilities with the ministry, but because it was a future situation, all I could think about was how dramatically different Continue Reading

We ALL Need Heart Surgery…

Enjoy the NOW you are in...

We have an update from my husband's recent cardiology visit. So I've been walking around with my own heart caught in my throat for about a week. Do you remember that feeling? When I think of my childhood and the bullying, this is the feeling I remember most. Tears flow easily. Fear Continue Reading

It’s in The Hands of God…

God IS.

In this you greatly rejoice, even though now for a little while, if necessary, you have been distressed by various trials, so that the proof of your faith, being more precious than gold which is perishable, even though tested by fire, may be found to result in praise and glory and honor at the Continue Reading

The Pain of Miscarriage… and Respect Dare 37

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I judged her. A friend of mine, still hurting from an unexpected but welcomed pregnancy lost in miscarriage, received judgment from me instead of compassion. She never knew, however, but as I've been praying in the recent weeks, asking God to reveal my sin to me, and then coincidentally Continue Reading

What to Do with Pain… and Dare Thirty-Six

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Eyes wet, tears slipped down her face. Drowning in sorrow over wrong doing and lack of hope, she fought the hardening of her heart, somewhat unsuccessfully. She's waited for years for things to be different. Worked hard, obeyed, confessed. Whom could she talk to? Who would understand? To Continue Reading

Want To Change Your Husband…??

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Want to change your husband? As in, put an end to the pain-style change him? Check out what this woman did... She's referring to this post, btw... I've been at this Respect Dare since last December. At times I've been greatly disappointed in myself-relapsing into old patterns of Continue Reading

How do We Live?

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This morning I had a discussion with one of my kids who was surprised by an opportunity. It involved the child's gifting, so I said participation was non-negotiable. Why? Because I fully embrace the notion that this life is all about His glory - not mine. And I'm trying to help my kids learn Continue Reading

Pssst… What Do YOU Think?

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Yesterday I asked women what they think of the marriage TIPS emails they receive from us. From the survey results so far, it seems like women generally love them and are helped by them, AND they are aching for more information about what to do with three major situations.  Maybe you've dealt with Continue Reading

You may not know this, but…

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I have failed at being good at being married. Hundreds of times, failed. What does that look like? I think you might know. So because God wired me to not take "failure" as an end result of much of anything, I literally have a few hundred books on marriage. And I've read them Continue Reading