Submissive Wife? Will it Save Her Marriage?

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A friend of mine tried everything to save her marriage. She is what any mature Christian woman would call a "submissive wife" - know there's a difference between that and being a doormat. More here if it's confusing. And no, I'm not talking about writing up a contract to allow some guy to whip Continue Reading

2 Wise Women We Want to Be When We Grow Up…

A woman of strength and dignity is a

There's probably a ton more than 2 wise women we should attempt to be like. I don't know about you, but I have some wise women friends that just blow my mind with how mature they are. One of my friends is going through a hard time right now. Her husband did something awful. I'm not going to Continue Reading

Four Reasons to Stop Saying “I’m Fine.”

STOP saying _I'm Fine._

I've been putting off writing this for a while. I haven't known how to talk about it. I'm not sure that I even know how to now, but I want to regardless. This is just a part of the story. SO. Here goes... Several weeks ago, I sat in an eye clinic lobby at the University of Iowa Hospital.  Continue Reading

Thank You…

God IS Good.

I walked down the hall of the hospital, the green-grey walls and fluorescent lighting sucking the life out of me. Heading toward a restaurant aptly named, “Au Bon Pain” which is supposed to mean, “The Good Bread” or something in French, I saw her. Crying Girl. The fourth or fifth crying woman Continue Reading

3 Tips to Finding Joy in Suffering

At first, it’s a choice – a choice to

Sitting in the sanctuary with about 1000 people yesterday during "open mic," I prayed, "If you want me to say something, Lord, You'll need to calm my heart. I really don't want to get up and do this." I seldom get nervous about speaking in public, but for some reason, He and I sometimes have the Continue Reading

What Are YOU Waiting For?

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My mind was elsewhere, and I looked at her. I saw my friend and coworker's mouth moving, and couldn't answer the question she was asking. It was something about upcoming possibilities with the ministry, but because it was a future situation, all I could think about was how dramatically different Continue Reading

We ALL Need Heart Surgery…

Enjoy the NOW you are in...

We have an update from my husband's recent cardiology visit. So I've been walking around with my own heart caught in my throat for about a week. Do you remember that feeling? When I think of my childhood and the bullying, this is the feeling I remember most. Tears flow easily. Fear Continue Reading

It’s in The Hands of God…

God IS Good.

In this you greatly rejoice, even though now for a little while, if necessary, you have been distressed by various trials, so that the proof of your faith, being more precious than gold which is perishable, even though tested by fire, may be found to result in praise and glory and honor at the Continue Reading

The Pain of Miscarriage… and Respect Dare 37

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I judged her. A friend of mine, still hurting from an unexpected but welcomed pregnancy lost in miscarriage, received judgment from me instead of compassion. She never knew, however, but as I've been praying in the recent weeks, asking God to reveal my sin to me, and then coincidentally Continue Reading

What to Do with Pain… and Dare Thirty-Six

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Eyes wet, tears slipped down her face. Drowning in sorrow over wrong doing and lack of hope, she fought the hardening of her heart, somewhat unsuccessfully. She's waited for years for things to be different. Worked hard, obeyed, confessed. Whom could she talk to? Who would understand? To Continue Reading