How to Deal with Defensiveness

aka how to scare your husband...


If you are looking for how to deal with defensiveness, this may help. So a while back, we ran a survey and discovered a commonly used phrase that instills fear into the average husband. The creator of all this anxiety?  One of the most commonly used phrases by wives around the western world:  “We need to […]

How to be calm during conflict…

and how you can help your kids, your spouse, and your team stop freaking out

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Wish you knew how to be calm during conflict?  Dare 4: Whatever We Pay Attention to Grows (yes, I’m writing another book – this time one about respecting self & others, and it will deal with handling conflict, deflating defensiveness, and creating communities of mutual respect and accountability – you can sign up by subscribing […]

Why he disrespects you…


Wondering why he disrespects you? Let’s use an analogy to understand why husbands sometimes disrespect their wives… So let’s say you are an avid runner and want to significantly increase your distance and pace because you want to not only run a marathon, but you want to run it fast enough to qualify for the […]

How defensiveness is destroying your marriage…


In case you’re not, you should be aware of how defensiveness is destroying your marriage… I would like some input in dealing with family communication, or lack thereof. When someone does something insulting, deceptive, etc. to upset me and/ or make me angry, the defense mechanism is to get angry at me-first- so I’m on […]

Top 10 Ways to Destroy Your Marriage

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Few people probably Google “ways to destroy my marriage,” but we all need to pay attention to some marriage-destroying communication behaviors. Sometimes we learn from knowing what NOT to do. 🙂 Bear in mind, I’m not one given to sarcasm, and this post is literally dripping with it. I hope you aren’t offended, but a […]

Want To Change Your Husband…??

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Want to change your husband? As in, put an end to the pain-style change him? Check out what this woman did… She’s referring to this post, btw… I’ve been at this Respect Dare since last December. At times I’ve been greatly disappointed in myself-relapsing into old patterns of complaint and begging. However, there have been […]

What Do You Do When Verbally Assaulted?

There are many things you can do when you are verbally assaulted, and if you have an angry man you are married to, or you have regular disagreements with people, you are probably wanting to know how to disagree with them without feeling like a doormat. Or maybe you are still wondering if you are […]

Pssst… What Do YOU Think?

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Yesterday I asked women what they think of the marriage TIPS emails they receive from us. From the survey results so far, it seems like women generally love them and are helped by them, AND they are aching for more information about what to do with three major situations.  Maybe you’ve dealt with them? They […]