Why he disrespects you…

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Wondering why he disrespects you? Let’s use an analogy to understand why husbands sometimes disrespect their wives… So let’s say you are an avid runner and want to significantly increase your distance and pace because you want to not only run a marathon, but you want to run it fast enough to qualify for the […]

If you can’t say something nice…

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If you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all, right? That would be awesome if it were in the Bible, but it’s just not.  The closest we can come is Proverbs 16:4, which reads: Gracious words are like a honeycomb, sweetness to the soul and health to the body. If we check Proverbs […]

How defensiveness is destroying your marriage…

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In case you’re not, you should be aware of how defensiveness is destroying your marriage… I would like some input in dealing with family communication, or lack thereof. When someone does something insulting, deceptive, etc. to upset me and/ or make me angry, the defense mechanism is to get angry at me-first- so I’m on […]

Top 10 Ways to Destroy Your Marriage

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Few people probably Google “ways to destroy my marriage,” but we all need to pay attention to some marriage-destroying communication behaviors. Sometimes we learn from knowing what NOT to do. 🙂 Bear in mind, I’m not one given to sarcasm, and this post is literally dripping with it. I hope you aren’t offended, but a […]

Want To Change Your Husband…??

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Want to change your husband? As in, put an end to the pain-style change him? Check out what this woman did… She’s referring to this post, btw… I’ve been at this Respect Dare since last December. At times I’ve been greatly disappointed in myself-relapsing into old patterns of complaint and begging. However, there have been […]

Dare 29… Abuse and Persecution…

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A few days ago, I received this in reference to my post on dealing with someone who verbally assaults you: My husband has in the past referred to me as ‘a piece of skin that he uses for sex’. I was so hurt about this but still chose to extend grace to him and continued […]

What Do You Do When Verbally Assaulted?

There are many things you can do when you are verbally assaulted, and if you have an angry man you are married to, or you have regular disagreements with people, you are probably wanting to know how to disagree with them without feeling like a doormat. Or maybe you are still wondering if you are […]

Pssst… What Do YOU Think?

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Yesterday I asked women what they think of the marriage TIPS emails they receive from us. From the survey results so far, it seems like women generally love them and are helped by them, AND they are aching for more information about what to do with three major situations.  Maybe you’ve dealt with them? They […]

You may not know this, but…

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I have failed at being good at being married. Hundreds of times, failed. What does that look like? I think you might know. So because God wired me to not take “failure” as an end result of much of anything, I literally have a few hundred books on marriage. And I’ve read them all. Cover-to-cover […]

Is a Label Messing Up Your Marriage?

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Right now, there are just two choices: Egalitarian and Complementarian. Here’s what they mean, according to their own writings: Egalitarian: We believe in the equality and essential dignity of men and women of all ethnicities, ages, and classes. We recognize that all persons are made in the image of God and are to reflect that […]