Girls and Self-Respect

Teaching identity

When Girls Demonstrate Self-Respect … As risky as it is to admit, there’s a small part of me eagerly waiting for the day that my daughter and I are just friends.     And I say, “just friends,” because the carpooling to play practices, voice lessons, piano, discussions about Instagram, iPods, limits, grades, homework, boys, clothes, and […]

Dare #1 Journey – Got Expectations?

As promised, this week we begin our new dare journey – it’s for any woman, married or not, of any age. You can find the back story here. I’m looking at this as “Respect 101 – Respecting God, Ourselves, and Others” Dare 1 – Got Expectations? A gangly seventh grader, I stood in front of the long […]

I Got This…

Knowing when God wants you to ask for help

I don’t need help A while back, the forecast threatened frost and I wanted to protect my beautiful, yet heavy, potted lemon tree.  Walking to the driveway to pull the cumbersome planter back  into my garage, I realized it might be difficult to manage. I considered asking my son for help, but didn’t want to add another burden to the long list of […]

What we can learn from the recent shootings that will help our marriages…

We need to recognize that recent race issues in our country are symptomatic of how America is suffering from mental illness - and it's based on cognitive distortion.

Wondering what we can learn from the recent shootings that will help our marriages? Bear with me for a moment – all these things are connected and you’ll see why in just a minute. Sitting at my computer on Saturday, I started grading exams for my college public speaking courses. When I moused over the […]

Respect 101… and the hazards of being assertive

Assertive women are perceived MORE negatively and less competent than assertive men.

Respect 101 and the hazards of being assertive… Got respect? Know why it matters to men? The other night while I was teaching public speaking at our local community college, I made a comment that rattled the cages of a few of the women. I didn’t mean to upset them, but they needed to know […]

One man’s opinion about defensiveness…

Ever ask a man about defensiveness? A little while back, a class member asked me a question about her husband. He had made fun of a disabled person and was angry about how long it took to get through the grocery line. She has been at a loss at how to deal with these things. […]

Marriage Myths that Might be Making a Mess of Your Marriage

Debunking the Marriage Myths Over the next few weeks, I’m going to have some posts up about what is and isn’t true about marriage – and it’s based on research. We’ll be unpacking a few simple ideas that may have skewed your thinking for years, help you understand why they’re damaging, give you some ways […]

Passive Aggressive Husband?

Is your husband passive aggressive? According to Google: pas·sive-ag·gres·sive adjective of or denoting a type of behavior or personality characterized by indirect resistance to the demands of others and an avoidance of direct confrontation, as in procrastinating, pouting, or misplacing important materials. Men aren’t the only ones capable of being passive aggressive. Women can be […]