How to be calm during conflict…

and how you can help your kids, your spouse, and your team stop freaking out

Wish you knew how to be calm during conflict?  Dare 4: Whatever We Pay Attention to Grows (yes, I’m writing another book – this time one about respecting self & others, and it will deal with handling conflict, deflating defensiveness, and creating communities of mutual respect and accountability – you can sign up by subscribing […]

When your teen is disrespectful…

and a parenting assessment that may shake you up a bit... *YIPES!*

Wondering what to do when your teen is disrespectful? Feeling brave? Join us in this assessment based on Biblical “what works” parenting tips – and at the end of this post, you’ll get a code to join us in our eCourse for With All Due Respect with $59 off the tuition, good through Friday, January […]

How to avoid feeling shame …

Ever have someone shame you? It’s an awful feeling, don’t you think? The face-flushing, guilty-headache, hot-cheeked, where’s-the-door-right-Now? feeling that stinks like no other. And you may not consider yourself someone who dumps shame on others – I certainly didn’t think of myself that way – but if we’ve ever begun a sentence with, “How could […]

What should she do?

In search of the male perspective...

Psychologists will tell us that the “parent-child” style of relating is extremely unhealthy in marriage. What IS healthiest is “adult-adult.” Unfortunately, we don’t always do that. Both men and women can be “parental” in a relationship and “childish.” This manifests itself in ranges of varying levels of controlling behaviors to rebelliousness, respectively. I have a […]

Who is to blame?

Who is to blame? As I wrestled with the rope knot on the tarp covering our boat, two thoughts fought for the lead spot in my brain. The first thought, given that it was Memorial Day and this used to be my dad’s fishing boat, was of the man who taught me to fish. I […]

When you’ve been wronged…

We often think that emotional injury isn’t supposed to happen in marriage, but when you’ve been wronged, or when you hurt the one you love, the Bible’s pretty clear on the course of action that is to follow: Forgiveness. We’ve heard it said that Unforgiveness is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to […]

Why he disrespects you…

Wondering why he disrespects you? Let’s use an analogy to understand why husbands sometimes disrespect their wives… So let’s say you are an avid runner and want to significantly increase your distance and pace because you want to not only run a marathon, but you want to run it fast enough to qualify for the […]