A Small Change to STOP Making Others Defensive

Simple phrase that diffuses potential conflict

A turn from defensive I walked into the hallway and said to her, “Baby, you’ll need to do the stairs, there’s dog hair on them.” This was after she’d already put the vacuum away, thinking she was done with her daily chore. I might have heard, “I know!!” from her lips or spotted a complimentary eye-roll for no […]

God Can Change Your Marriage in 2017

Do you believe God can change your marriage in 2017? That’s half the battle, right there. Because maybe, just maybe, you’ve given up hope. What if the mess your marriage is in exists because of a number of God-created and poorly humanly handled circumstances and responses? Here’s what we know to be true, things that […]

What we can learn from the recent shootings that will help our marriages…

We need to recognize that recent race issues in our country are symptomatic of how America is suffering from mental illness - and it's based on cognitive distortion.

Wondering what we can learn from the recent shootings that will help our marriages? Bear with me for a moment – all these things are connected and you’ll see why in just a minute. Sitting at my computer on Saturday, I started grading exams for my college public speaking courses. When I moused over the […]

What does it mean to submit to your husband?

Have you ever wondered, “What does it mean to submit to your husband?” Or do you just kind of skim over those verses in the Bible, like I used to do, back in the dark ages, when we were first married? I’ve written on this topic a number of times, and I know it often […]

God Can Change Your Marriage in 2016

Do you believe God can change your marriage in 2016? That’s half the battle, right there. Because maybe, just maybe, you’ve given up hope. What if the mess your marriage is in exists because of a number of God-created and poorly humanly handled circumstances and responses? Here’s what we know to be true, things that […]

What God told me He wanted for Christmas…

I might be publicly asking the people with the white coats to show up this year by saying “God told me what He wanted for Christmas” – I mean, for some, “hearing from God” is akin to “being crazy” so feel free if you want to judge me that way. I don’t care because you […]

My Pastor Harpooned Me…

I’ve never actually been whale-style harpooned, but God used my pastor last week to do something that felt close… And it was exactly what I needed. We sat in his office, my husband and I, working through a situation that had wounded us both. While I can be good at helping our kids navigate some […]