Dare #12 Journey – Submission

Is a Label Messing Up Your Marriage?

Right now, there are just two world-views on marriage relationships: Egalitarian and Complementarian. Here’s what they mean, according to their own writings: Egalitarian: We believe in the equality and essential dignity of men and women of all ethnicities, ages, and classes. Recognize that all persons are made in the image of God and are to […]

Dare #12 of The Respect Dare… Submission without becoming a Doormat

Showing Grace Wasted home-cooked meal on the counter. Over night. Some people just don’t get it. I confess I’ve been one of them. And I can RIGHT NOW relate to the woman in Dare 12. She’s got 101 things to do, she’s exhausted, she asked for help, and delivery was mediocre. Mind you, when I […]

Dare #11 Journey – Negative Assumptions

One Simple Key to Respecting Your Husband - and Yourself...

Is there really ONE simple thing you can do to respect your husband and yourself? YES. You may remember my post that deals with Dr. John Gottman’s research on how negative sentiments impact marriage. Dare you today to wildly extend grace, while not being a doormat. Speak truth in love, talk about how you feel, […]

Dare #9 Journey – Feel like a doormat? Might need some boundaries…

If you feel like a doormat in your marriage it might be due to a need for boundaries. (stick around for the self-assessment toward the end and find out how YOU can be a Titus 2 woman and lead other women to this freedom in their marriages) I remember the first time a boundary of […]

Independence Day – Can I trouble you for a prayer?

This week we take a break from the dares, because honestly, I am floored by how quickly the days are moving. I’ve been trying to figure out summer with kids, wrestling with emotions, driving people around, putting out fires, dealing with gardens, and trying to keep first things first. And this week – the Fourth […]

Dare #7 of The Respect Dare – If You Can’t Say Something Nice…

Having children is called a blessing in the Bible. It can also ruin your marriage. And not surprisingly, research actually supports this – marital satisfaction declines after children are born, and increases when they are all gone. For me, having kids in their teens and twenties has proven as emotionally exhausting as it was physically […]

Dare # 6 Journey – Got Friends?

Got Friends? You could take one look at me as an 11 year-old and feel my pain. I often stood at the fence outside the school, dreading another day of torturous interaction with my classmates. I had gangly arms and legs and my too-big-tortoise-shell glasses dominated my small face.  I’d stand outside the fence as […]

Dare #6 of The Respect Dare – Conflict

Several years ago, I facilitated a retreat that equipped organizational leaders to effectively handle conflict. We spent a good deal of time talking about some of the behaviors of people in the organization. God used the opportunity to remind me of something. Many of the issues and problems that ALL organizations face are due to […]