Dare #18 of The Respect Dare… What should she do?

In search of the male perspective...

Psychologists will tell us that the “parent-child” or “mothering” style of relating is extremely unhealthy in marriage. What IS healthiest is “adult-adult.” Unfortunately, we don’t always do that. Both men and women can be “parental” or “mothering” in a relationship and “childish.” This manifests itself in ranges of varying levels of controlling behaviors to rebelliousness, […]

Dare #17 Journey – Is a Label Messing Up Your Marriage?

Right now, there are just two choices: Egalitarian and Complementarian. Here’s what they mean, according to their own writings: Egalitarian: We believe in the equality and essential dignity of men and women of all ethnicities, ages, and classes. And we recognize that all persons are made in the image of God and are to reflect […]

Dare #17 of The Respect Dare… How Do You REALLY Feel?

Today’s Dare always gives me pause. Truth is, when negative sentiment over-ride has created a place within a marriage, the wife often can’t translate what her husband actually DOES into a positive character trait. Often these folks are headed for separation or divorce and don’t even realize it. I’ve talked with too many wives who […]

Dare #13 Bonus – STOP Doing it All

Stop doing it all. Earlier this week, I wrote about the entire “housework” issue in Dare Thirteen in terms of who is actually doing what. Yesterday, I wrote about the “Do It All” woman, the one who is exhausted, burned out, and stressing out those around her. I received an email saying, “This also applies to […]

Dare #12 Journey – Submission

Is a Label Messing Up Your Marriage?

Right now, there are just two world-views on marriage relationships: Egalitarian and Complementarian. Here’s what they mean, according to their own writings: Egalitarian: We believe in the equality and essential dignity of men and women of all ethnicities, ages, and classes. Recognize that all persons are made in the image of God and are to […]

Dare #12 of The Respect Dare… Submission without becoming a Doormat

Showing Grace Wasted home-cooked meal on the counter. Over night. Some people just don’t get it. I confess I’ve been one of them. And I can RIGHT NOW relate to the woman in Dare 12. She’s got 101 things to do, she’s exhausted, she asked for help, and delivery was mediocre. Mind you, when I […]

Dare #11 Journey – Negative Assumptions

One Simple Key to Respecting Your Husband - and Yourself...

Is there really ONE simple thing you can do to respect your husband and yourself? YES. You may remember my post that deals with Dr. John Gottman’s research on how negative sentiments impact marriage. Dare you today to wildly extend grace, while not being a doormat. Speak truth in love, talk about how you feel, […]