Dare #17 of The Respect Dare… How Do You REALLY Feel?

Today’s Dare always gives me pause. Truth is, when negative sentiment over-ride has created a place within a marriage, the wife often can’t translate what her husband actually DOES into a positive character trait. Often these folks are headed for separation or divorce and don’t even realize it. I’ve talked with too many wives who […]

Dare #16 Journey We Need Prayer… for What Changes YOUR Marriage…

What if there was a process to change your marriage? And what if it was not only biblical, but had been proven to work? What if there was even tons of research behind it? And the method had been around for literally decades? Here’s the thing – ALL marriages have conflict. Based on what we’ve […]

Dare #16 of The Respect Dare…

The factory worker stood in front of me. Greasy hands wiped the front of his shirt. “What ARE you, anyway?” he asked me. My brow furrowed. I chewed my lip. I had no idea what he was talking about. “What do you mean?” I inquired. “You’re always so happy all the time. And whenever someone […]

Dare #14 Journey – Is A Lack of Communication Destroying Your Marriage?

The horses grazed in the pasture. The drying grass crunched under my feet as I walked from the barn out to the field, eager to try the new thing I learned the day before thanks to Equus.com. Normally, my process was efficient and productive. Take the lead. Walk to the horses, maybe saying, “hello” to […]

Dare #11 Journey – Negative Assumptions

One Simple Key to Respecting Your Husband - and Yourself...

Is there really ONE simple thing you can do to respect your husband and yourself? YES. You may remember my post that deals with Dr. John Gottman’s research on how negative sentiments impact marriage. Dare you today to wildly extend grace, while not being a doormat. Speak truth in love, talk about how you feel, […]

Dare #9 Journey – Feel like a doormat? Might need some boundaries…

If you feel like a doormat in your marriage it might be due to a need for boundaries. (stick around for the self-assessment toward the end and find out how YOU can be a Titus 2 woman and lead other women to this freedom in their marriages) I remember the first time a boundary of […]

Dare #7 of The Respect Dare – If You Can’t Say Something Nice…

Having children is called a blessing in the Bible. It can also ruin your marriage. And not surprisingly, research actually supports this – marital satisfaction declines after children are born, and increases when they are all gone. For me, having kids in their teens and twenties has proven as emotionally exhausting as it was physically […]

Dare # 6 Journey – Got Friends?

Got Friends? You could take one look at me as an 11 year-old and feel my pain. I often stood at the fence outside the school, dreading another day of torturous interaction with my classmates. I had gangly arms and legs and my too-big-tortoise-shell glasses dominated my small face.  I’d stand outside the fence as […]