How to Calm Down an Angry Husband

How to Calm Down an Angry Husband Your husband says to you, “You never…” or “You always…” or whatever.  Your natural reaction is to be what?  How about ticked? Or hurt. Or worse yet, scared. But yes, probably angry.  Unless you are scared.  Or don’t know what to do.  And that usually results in being […]

Top 10 Ways to Disrespect Yourself…

what all wives should know...

There are probably more than 10 ways to disrespect yourself, but today we’re going to take a stab at the top 10 we see over here. And if you stick it out til the end, you will find the $40 off coupon code for the eCourse. The Respect Dare journey can be a difficult to do, […]

Top 10 Ways to Destroy Your Marriage

Few people probably Google “ways to destroy my marriage,” but we all need to pay attention to some marriage-destroying communication behaviors. Sometimes we learn from knowing what NOT to do. 🙂 Bear in mind, I’m not one given to sarcasm, and this post is literally dripping with it. I hope you aren’t offended, but a […]

4 Things to Say To Solve a Conflict

when you don't know what to say or do...

If you had 4 things to say to solve a conflict with your husband, would you jump into using them? I hope so! Do you wonder what to say to him when you are hurt? Do thoughts of submission and respect and “in all things” come to mind? And so you do nothing because you […]

Feeling Unappreciated?

aka "how not to get stuck in misery"

Feeling Unappreciated? I have a friend who is seeing a marriage counselor because her marriage is hard. She shared recently with me what she considered a “really small incident” that represents a ton of others. One morning she rose early, made her husband’s lunch for him (usually he made it himself because he leaves really […]

When you are the only one trying in your marriage…

aka "How wise women handle unloving behavior"

I know it hurts when it seems you are the only one trying in your marriage. You might wonder if it is you, and struggle with why he won’t change. You don’t know what to do, and maybe you are crying yourself to sleep at night, lonely as all get-out. Last week, we talked through […]

How to be calm during conflict…

and how you can help your kids, your spouse, and your team stop freaking out

Wish you knew how to be calm during conflict?  Dare 4: Whatever We Pay Attention to Grows (yes, I’m writing another book – this time one about respecting self & others, and it will deal with handling conflict, deflating defensiveness, and creating communities of mutual respect and accountability – you can sign up by subscribing […]

One man’s opinion about defensiveness…

Ever ask a man about defensiveness? A little while back, a class member asked me a question about her husband. He had made fun of a disabled person and was angry about how long it took to get through the grocery line. She has been at a loss at how to deal with these things. […]