I’m To Respect My Husband. Submit. Does That Mean I Vanish as a Person?

A while back, a friend made a comment about how she was struggling with “becoming her husband’s shadow.” This confused me. “What do you mean?” I inquired. “It’s that verse, Proverbs 12:4, ‘An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who causes shame is like rottenness in his bones.’ I’ve been taught […]

Dare #8 of The Respect Dare – The Problem with Memories

I Remember the Time… The lunge line was in one hand, the end of the rope in the other. I quietly told my horse to lunge (walk a circle) around me to the left. She did this. Then she sprung into the air, and started to gallop. Mane tossed in the wind. Eyes wide. Both […]

Dare #7 of The Respect Dare – If You Can’t Say Something Nice…

Having children is called a blessing in the Bible. It can also ruin your marriage. And not surprisingly, research actually supports this – marital satisfaction declines after children are born, and increases when they are all gone. For me, having kids in their teens and twenties has proven as emotionally exhausting as it was physically […]

Dare #6 of The Respect Dare – Conflict

Several years ago, I facilitated a retreat that equipped organizational leaders to effectively handle conflict. We spent a good deal of time talking about some of the behaviors of people in the organization. God used the opportunity to remind me of something. Many of the issues and problems that ALL organizations face are due to […]

Dare #5 of The Respect Dare – Trust God or Idols?

When A Child is Hurt...

Of all the dares in the book, Dare 5 strikes the most nerves. A child is injured. Mom saw it coming. Choose to Trust God? She chose to stay out of His way, and God showed up to teach her husband something. But what if it had been worse? Could you have trusted God’s goodness […]

Dare #2 of the Respect Dare…

Identity

Healthy Identity in Christ = Self-Respect One of the things we’re going to talk a lot about in this journey which started last week (click HERE if you missed), is the relationship with ourselves. I know that sounds a little weird, “relationship with myself?” Do I mean talking to myself? And answering? Actually, yes, but not in the out-loud-crazy-lock-me-up […]

Dare 1 of The RESPECT DARE…Expectations

Marriage Expectations My daughter and I attended a conference for young girls and their moms. Standing and worshiping together, we clapped hands, waved our arms, and sang our hearts out. We took notes and ate Chick-Fil-A sandwiches for lunch.  We talked and laughed a lot. The main message of the conference dealt with Jesus Christ as […]

The Respect Dare… for Non-Christians

Respect Research 101

Rationale for Respect Several years ago, I had a discussion with a woman who adamantly refused to demonstrate respect towards her husband. She felt he hadn’t done anything to deserve it. She’s not a Christian, and wouldn’t appreciate God’s point of view in the matter.  So, I took an academic approach. Research done at Washington State University […]

Self-Respect + Respect for your husband helps your marriage…

Did you know that self-respect + respect for your husband actually helps your marriage? Here’s a brief glance at what that can look like: So don’t be “wrong at the top of your voice,” as Emerson Eggerich puts it. If your husband is interested in growing your marriage, know he’ll hear the truth better from […]