I’m To Respect My Husband. Submit. Does That Mean I Vanish as a Person?

A while back, a friend made a comment about how she was struggling with “becoming her husband’s shadow.” This confused me. “What do you mean?” I inquired. “It’s that verse, Proverbs 12:4, ‘An excellent wife is the crown of her husband, but she who causes shame is like rottenness in his bones.’ I’ve been taught […]

Dare #16 of The Respect Dare…

The factory worker stood in front of me. Greasy hands wiped the front of his shirt. “What ARE you, anyway?” he asked me. My brow furrowed. I chewed my lip. I had no idea what he was talking about. “What do you mean?” I inquired. “You’re always so happy all the time. And whenever someone […]

Dare #14 of The Respect Dare

Communication When I read Dare 14 from The Respect Dare this morning again, I saw a number of things that I hadn’t seen in it before. The comments about the husband’s emotional responses, subtle as they were, stood out to me. What’s really interesting is I’m also currently studying horse communication.  I spent about half […]

Dare #12 of The Respect Dare… Submission without becoming a Doormat

Showing Grace Wasted home-cooked meal on the counter. Over night. Some people just don’t get it. I confess I’ve been one of them. And I can RIGHT NOW relate to the woman in Dare 12. She’s got 101 things to do, she’s exhausted, she asked for help, and delivery was mediocre. Mind you, when I […]

Dare #8 of The Respect Dare – The Problem with Memories

I Remember the Time… The lunge line was in one hand, the end of the rope in the other. I quietly told my horse to lunge (walk a circle) around me to the left. She did this. Then she sprung into the air, and started to gallop. Mane tossed in the wind. Eyes wide. Both […]

Dare #7 of The Respect Dare – If You Can’t Say Something Nice…

Having children is called a blessing in the Bible. It can also ruin your marriage. And not surprisingly, research actually supports this – marital satisfaction declines after children are born, and increases when they are all gone. For me, having kids in their teens and twenties has proven as emotionally exhausting as it was physically […]

Dare #6 of The Respect Dare – Conflict

Several years ago, I facilitated a retreat that equipped organizational leaders to effectively handle conflict. We spent a good deal of time talking about some of the behaviors of people in the organization. God used the opportunity to remind me of something. Many of the issues and problems that ALL organizations face are due to […]