Something is missing from our viral lists of 101 Ways to Respect Your Husband, and 101 Ways to Love Your Wife – it’s a list of 101 Ways to Respect Yourself. We shy away from this topic in Christiandom because we think it breeds selfishness – and it might – but to ignore it breeds doormats.
At our small group the other night, I listened to a speaker talk about parenting 2-7 year olds… he had the audacity to say things like, “If you’ve given your 7 year old a cell phone, guess what? YOU SCREWED UP!”
And, my personal favorite of his comments went something like this:
“If you’re constantly picking up after everyone, doing all the cleaning, making sure the kids assignments are in the backpacks, taking care of everyone’s needs and are exhausted, guess what? You’re NOT teaching anyone SELF RESPECT.”
And let’s not forget that Jesus ate when He was hungry, and slept when He was tired. The phrase “as you love yourself” in the Great Commandment is debated as meaning either:
- who is similar to you
- the way you love yourself, or
- in the same good way as you love yourself
So I’m working on a list. And I’m going to make it related to others as well, lest we all become narcissists.
Feel free to add some of your favorite ways to RESPECT others & yourself in the comment section! 🙂
I’m also praying I don’t rile anyone up and hope folks will check out some of my other posts before I get assaulted for not talking about respecting your husband. 🙂 Please know I’m not advocating walking away from God. If I’m talking about the color blue, it doesn’t mean I no longer like peaches. If you are worried, check this post about submission in marriage.
I’m still shocked I’m even writing on this topic, but yes, our culture needs to understand that a woman is not contemptuous simply by having a different opinion than her husband – the way she expresses that can be dripping with contempt, sure, but that’s also not what I’m talking about today. Young wives especially need encouragement to take care of themselves and use as many life hacks as possible.
Failure to do so will help you end up like this discouraged woman here.
Anyway, chime in with your own suggestions today. 🙂
What about you? What thoughts do you have on this topic today? Can’t wait to interact with you about them!
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