Dare 23 of The Respect Dare… and GIFTS

Is “receiving gifts” your husband’s love language?


God knew I didn’t have time to think this week because of the first ever Daughters of Sarah Boot Camp – please pray for us all as we do this NEW next thing! 🙂 Our pilot groups are starting this summer – we’re so very excited!! 🙂

Anyway, THIS came in from a WONDERFUL woman – and it was on this week’s dare – and she gave me permission to share.

Enjoy! 🙂

For dare number 23, we were to give our husbands a token representing our admiration.

Gifts are definitely NOT my love language, so it felt a bit awkward and forced to me, but I painted a small picture of a knight’s armor and weapons for my husband, and included a note of appreciation for how incredibly hard he works and reminding him that I am his number one fan. I left it in his bathroom for him to find when he got home from work.

A few hours later, he came home but didn’t go into his bathroom for a few hours. Nervousness was building inside of me as time went by. I thought of how I couldn’t quite paint the background exactly how I wanted it, and worried that he would notice the flaws that I saw. I worried that he would think the whole thing was a bit silly.

When my husband finally did go to the washroom, I waited anxiously, feeling more and more all the time that this was a bad idea.
He stayed in the bathroom a long time, and when he came out, he was crying.

“Did you paint this for me?” He asked, and I nodded. “It’s so good! It looks so good! And it’s just really encouraging. I really needed this,” he said, wiping his eyes.

Later that evening, as we were falling asleep, he even said he should get it tattooed onto himself! And my husband hates tattoos!

Needless to say, all my fears were unfounded and I learned a new way to love and encourage my husband that I would never have thought of on my own.


We’re praising God for what He did in both her heart and her husband with this expression of worship.

What do you think? What comes to mind as you read this today? 🙂

Love to you,



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2 thoughts on “Dare 23 of The Respect Dare… and GIFTS

  1. Learning yur spouse’s love language can be difficult. I still have not found the ONE thing I canpoint to and say “that’s it”. I know he feels loved when I show him respect infront of the kids or anyone for that matter. I likes when I help him with his tasks around the house (even though I rarely get help with mine, I do it because I love him and he does try when he knows something specific, like make the bed since he is usually up after me. He also likes gifts he wasn’t expecting. Just this week was my 13th wedding anniversary. We have been a bit tight with money since last year when we were separated for a spell… I had been putting away a bit knowing I wanted to get him something special. A few months back we were at the Marine Supply store (husband is a fisherman) and he mentioned how much he would love a “float coat” it is a jacket with a life vest built into it and they are USCG approved… On the day of our anniversary, I snuch it upstairs when we were getting ready to leave for a few hours to go fish for fun (it was a beautiful day to be on the water). When we got home, he asked if I would take care of one of his tasks in the garage, and I agreed.. a few minutes later he came out and wrapped his arms around me and told me how much he loved me, loved the gift, and that he felt bad because he thought we were not giving gifts this year. I do not mind one bit not having a physical gift.. the gift of having my marriage safe and secure again and having him want to show me he loves me is more than enough!

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