Lonely Wife appreciates the ton of comments from Monday and Tuesday’s blog. She says she has much to think about, much to pray about. One of her friends suggested she leave him – she doesn’t feel called to do that, though, so she’ll be praying through the comments here. I fully believe God will give us advice through other people – and it is Biblical to pray and seek the counsel of those wiser than us when we don’t know what to do.
THANK YOU for being part of that process for her.
She is grateful.
So am I.
I am sorry I was a bit out of pocket here at the beginning of the week. I’m actually on holiday in right now. I was traveling on Monday, and yesterday had issues with my internet connection. Since my husband stayed back this trip, and I’m a little less than mediocre skill-wise when it comes to internetty-things… I’m just now getting access on my computer.
Monday’s discussion was stellar. The comment section is RIPE with gobs of wisdom and encouragement, and opportunity to pray for one another. I read all of the comments while traveling, and watched you dialogue with each other so incredibly respectfully. Your thoughts help me feel like I know you better, too, which is really great.
And I’d like to point out a small thing that may go un-noticed within all of this discussion.
It’s important to have balance.
I’m not discounting the fact that a single verse can speak volumes to us within difficulty or other moments of a day – but one thing we forget sometimes (myself included) is that there are about a hundred different ways to look at a situation – and often only a few that are the ways we should be looking at it.
And many of you not only recognized that, but pointed it out.
Often, we’re missing part of the picture when we try to give advice. I’ve seen a number of circumstances where a wife feels like our gal, Lonely Wife, from Monday, and yet her husband feels nearly exactly the same – alone, ignored, unappreciated, etc.
So who is right?
The other thing we need to consider is a balanced presentation of what the Word says – our job as Titus encouragers is to point people back to the Word – the entirety of it.
I confess, I am not sure if I always do a good job of that. Not every single one of my posts covers 100% of what the Bible says about marriage – often, when I’m trying to discuss one element, I forget to include all of them. In that, I wonder if I am also guilty of maligning the Word.
Sometimes pastors/bloggers/teachers will only point to mutual submission and ignore submission, respect, head-ship verses and the creation account.
Other times, they (we) will point only to submission and respect and ignore Sapphira, Esther, Matthew 18, and the verses about how believers are to interact with each other.
And the world? The world would have us shove our opinions down others’ throats, stand up for rights, and make it all about us and feeling good. Sometimes we get caught up in worldly ideas and share those without the Word.
Speaking of the world, I am reminded that the Focus on the Family broadcasts of Jim Daly’s and John Fuller’s interviews with me are airing today in Australia. Prayers appreciated for whatever God plans to do with them!
So today’s question – since it is pretty stinkin’ amazing and obvious that so many of you are wise – without gossiping (naming others specifically) in what ways do YOU see a lack of balance in how Truth is communicated in relationship to marriage? How do you think the church and/or the body could improve in this area? What do you think would help solve the problem?
Love that you are here, love the dialogue!
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