Unfortunately, “Where’s MY happy ending?” is a question too women are asking these days.
And it starts really young.
I met with a 17 year old girl recently who told me she found the question, “What is love?” really confusing.
“Disney’s told me one thing, the church has told me another, and I have no idea what it’s all about,” she said.
And even the back of my book talks about “happily ever after.”
Excuse me, but “happily ever after” is a lie promulgated by a society drowning in selfishness. I remember a moment long ago when my own 17 year old self heard a speaker announce that the road to true happiness was down the path of service to others.
I thought he was ridiculous. I grew up in the “self-actualization” era, where the focus was on “having it my way,” being “all I could be,” and knowing that I could “bring home the bacon, fry it up in the pan and never ever let you forget you were a man,” because I was a WOMAN.
There IS tremendous joy and comfort that comes from knowing God, however.
People? We’re a mess.
And so when we watch these movie and music stars implode from the exercise of promotion of self, why are we surprised?
The bottom line?
There is no happy ending. At least not in marriage for most.
The real happy ending exists in heaven, which is the destination for this life.
Marriage is just another context through which we learn to resolve conflict and die to self. Our culture would have us believe it is everything, however, which it is not. I hear from gobs of women who confess to making marriage their idol. They are really unhappy.
If you are blessed in marrying someone who is as committed to growing and giving and learning to love as you are, then you’ll probably have a nicer time of it.
If you are married to the average sinner, which most people (not just women, but men, too) you’ll have trouble.
No great information this morning, and I’m sure zero encouragement, so please forgive me. All I could muster today was a declaration of what is true for many: 1 Corinthians 7:28 But if you do get married, it is not a sin. And if a young woman gets married, it is not a sin. However, those who get married at this time will have troubles, and I am trying to spare you those problems.
Sometimes I wonder if the Shakers had it right.
Love to you,