Want to Improve Your Relationships?

…with your kids? Or your husband? Or your parents?

Here’s some Truth today:

2 Timothy 1:7 For the Spirit God gave us does not make us timid,

but rather gives us power, love, and self-discipline.

Know someone who could use that Word? Feel free to share it with them. His Word brings life and light where there is darkness.

Here’s how it plays out when applied to relationships. We do not have the “right” to dish unkindness on others, no matter how “true” some things seem to be to us. So we need to speak life into people’s lives, being truthful, but not damaging others.

Ephesians 4:29 Let no unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only

but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs,

that it may benefit those who listen.

The “pain” you feel is actually maturity growing – like “please,” and “thank you,” being polite begins as something we don’t want to do, but then becomes second nature – as it should be. So it is with being gentle, self-controlled, kind, and patient in relationships.

Dare you to NOT demand what you want when you want it today, and instead…

You’ll speed up the maturity process. Ask God to walk this path with you – do it daily for 21 days in a row, then start over if you slip up. Six months from now, you’ll look back and be amazed.

We have a rule at our house that we’ll talk about the issues when people have emotional control. It helps all of us in Roesnerland when we do that.

Glad you are on the journey with us!

What do you think? Which situations/people cause YOU to need self-control and patience most? Dare you to join in the discussion today, and be a Titus 2 person!

Love to you,


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Comments

  1. trg says

    I have so much pain in my heart caused by my husband. I have so much i want to scream out at him. I keep praying and praying and praying but it seems that God’s focus is on me and what i need to fix. I don’t have much to say and stay pretty quiet because what i to have to say can’t be said in kindness. I’m lost somewhere between the knowledge i may never have a healthy happy marriage and not caring anymore. I feel unloved, uncared for, not cherished. Why am i doing this? Why do i stay? I feel so lost and without hope for lasting change.

    • Nina Roesner says

      Oh, Beloved. I have been where you are!!!

      It IS lonely.

      I encourage you – be strong and courageous, do not be afraid, do not be discouraged, for the Lord your God goes with you.

      Know He is birthing a testimony in you. Know He is about to come through for you…and He is going to do is as soon as you surrender. This is and is NOT about your husband, but rather about the work He is trying to do in you.

      Let Him.

      It IS worth it.

      I promise.

      But you cannot give up. Stop thinking about your marriage and your husband’s behavior, and obey God – follow Him. You will be different.

      And keep us posted along the way.

      Love to you,

      Nina

  2. says

    It has been some of the closest, dearest people in my life that have caused me to need self control and patience as well as mercy, love and forgiveness.
    The enemy has tried to get me off track in this but he is a liar! I took a tumble but God is merciful and has opened my eyes to it and is once again pointing me in the right direction. God’s plan is still in tact as much today as it ever has been. I stand on His promises to me and keep choosing to look forward and obey Him by walking in his love that he has shown to me. No one owes me anything, they are free of debt to me. I will pursue love and peace with all I have to all I know or even come in contact with. I will hunt down love and peace and look for opportunities in them. I will choose to give it away because that’s how good my God is to me. I don’t deserve it and He still gives it to me, how much more should I.

  3. says

    I find myself growing more towards this approach daily. I watch “the Duggars” and was amazed by how gentle and positive the mom in that show is. It was kind of convicting.

  4. says

    Thx for the reminder. My WW’n I had to learn to fight. Most of that had to do with her learning to wait while I would think about what I wanted to say. I’ve always thought of myself as an introvert. (Ialwayshatedthataboutme) Then, my daughter discovered the terms – externalizer and internalizer. This describes ways that people PROCESS their lives, thoughts, emotions. I’m not an introvert, I’m an internalizer!

    When my wife learned to wait for me to PROCESS, we began (‘n continue) to find healing in our relationship. We’re finding new freedoms to be REAL with each other.

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