In honor of several recent requests for a list that corresponds to our 101 Things A Husband Can DO to Show Love to His Wife… this one is for the wives and on how to show R-E-S-P-E-C-T.
And I know that some of you have some things you already do that are important to you – and to your husband. I don’t pretend to have all the answers. Because all men and women are different, and all marriages are a little different, at Greater Impact, we say there is no “formula” but rather an encouragement to try things and communicate with your husband to figure out what speaks R-E-S-P-E-C-T to him. If you haven’t read Gary Chapman’s Five Love Languages, that might give some insight as well.
Please know this list is not meant to overwhelm or discourage you – and if your marriage is in a tough spot, I’m so sorry – we’re going to continue our walk through the issues of marriage on Mondays and Wednesdays. Fridays are kind of a free day, sometimes we blog, sometimes we don’t, but we often do something different when we do. Please forgive me if the discussion causes you pain – it’s not intended to do so, but rather to respond to those who have asked for it. I hope you understand. Know you are prayed for if you are in a difficult place.
Also know that God’s Word is True – and it works. We hear from gobs of women whose marriages and relationship with God has been deepened as a result of obeying Ephesians 5:33, “And the wife must respect her husband.”
So for now, I’m starting the list – and later, we’ll turn it into a PDF with everything included that you can print and share with friends. Here’s my own top 10 from my marriage, and I’d just absolutely love it if you’d add a few of yours! If you are one of the bloggers who has led a group of women through The Respect Dare over the summer, or part of one of those groups, we’d especially love to hear from you!
Top 10 Ways to Show R-E-S-P-E-C-T to Your Husband:
- Smile and greet him when you first see him and when he comes home from work (or you do).
- Let him finish his sentences without interrupting and without finishing them for him.
- Ask him what he thinks about stuff that’s important to you or the kids.
- Stop what you are doing when he is talking and make eye contact with him, being a good listener by being interested in what he is saying.
- Say “thank you” daily for the things he does, even if they are part of his “job” in the family.
- Give him at least one compliment a day that builds him up – point out a character strength and say why it matters.
- Be enthusiastic about intimacy, pursuing him…
- Encourage him to spend time with his friends, and make it easy for him to do so.
- Touch him when you are speaking to him.
- Make him favorite meals regularly.
I know, there are so many more!
Now it’s your turn…
Ready, set, go!
What about you? What would YOU add to the list? Grab the next number and keep this going! Dare you to invite friends to join us!
Love to you,