My mother-in-law gave me the best advice when I had my first child. It was the week before I returned to my part-time training job in the evenings.
I was lamenting leaving the baby with my husband (her son) and all the things he wouldn’t know to do because he didn’t take care of him like I did.
She said, “If your child is alive when you come home that is all that matters – he will parent differently than you do. If you don’t encourage him in that, he’ll be a man who has no relationship with his kids when they are older. You will be alone as a parent, which is bad for him, bad for them, and bad for your marriage.”
Seriously stellar advice.
I took it.
And when I returned to the house (having left and forgotten something) to find the 5 month old with cookies on his high chair tray and the hard earned liquid gold breast milk sitting on the counter… I said nothing.
It took everything I had.
I didn’t know how to be encouraging at the time, so I bit my tongue.
And when I got home, I asked him how it went.
“We had a blast! He is such a fun little guy. We played and went outside and took a bath. It was great. He didn’t eat much, but I think I probably shouldn’t have given him the animal crackers while I was making my own dinner. I’ll feed him first next time, and then eat, myself.”
Thank you, Jesus, for teaching him for me.
And I know how much damage I could have done in that one moment…
And how tempted I was to do it – to be controlling…
Can you relate?
How about you? What’s the best advice you have received from a wise woman? What’s the best you’ve given? Dare you to be a Titus 2 woman and share here with us today!
Titus 2:3-5 Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. 4 Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, 5 to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God.
Glad you are here! Can’t wait to read what learnings you’ve had and advice you’d give about marriage today! If you think of me today, can I ask you to please pray? I’m leaving my people and flying to Little Rock, Arkansas to do an interview with Family Life Ministries on The Respect Dare book. I gave my heart to Christ at one of their conferences before Jim and I got married – we went as an engaged couple and have been back three or four more times. They’re awesome and REALLY inexpensive compared to other marriage workshops out there.
Love to you,