I honestly do recognize the positives from the women’s movement.
And yes, as a former professional, I appreciate the strides the movement made.
Having entered a predominantly male industry, injection molding, I quickly learned that respect is a language worthy of speaking if one wants to lead in an organization. Thankfully, working for my dad since the age of 13 taught me that language. More on that here.
Today, I’m simply mentioning that there is another side. I’ve been criticized for my views on respect – especially those about submission. I’ve been told I’m “the worst thing to happen to women in a long time,” and I’d be lying if I said those words didn’t sting. But if we are going to recognize the positives about feminism, we need to also acknowledge the negatives – a full view of truth is not seen from a microscope, but better from a wide-angle lens. Many writers today are re-defining the term “feminism” to mean “non-discrimination” of any kind.
This is fine, but for those of us who grew up in an different time than now, whose mothers and mothers’ friends were those new to the work world, some even setting fire to undergarments in marches and demonstrations, for those who grew up under those dynamics, there is a little different perspective that needs to be heard and recognized. The word simply holds a different meaning, especially if one was exposed to and surrounded by “fanatical feminists.” What I don’t know, and wish I did, was what the predominant understanding of that word is in today’s day and age. It seems those under 30 are trying to redefine it, while those of us over 40 have a different view, but my experience is anecdotal. My guess is that it depends on the context in which you were raised. This article explains in better words than I can, the damage and destruction that can be considered a result of “fanatical feminism.”
Some take the perspective of Matt Walsh – read more here. It’s interesting.
In the days where corporate executives like Sarah Sandburg are telling women to “have it all,” we need to take an honest look at some of those who did – and the daughters they left behind. We respectfully suggest that motherhood is a wonderful occupation, and mean no disrespect to those who have not chosen this path.
Regardless of whether you work full-time or part-time or not outside the home at all, the issue is not the number of hours, but rather the attitude in which motherhood is carried out.
Dare you to view it as the great privilege it truly is, the way this woman does, even after growing up as the daughter of Alice Walker, a prominent leader in the “fanatical” side of things. She, by the way, is the one who calls her mother, “fanatical.” Others view her simply as a leader. She is also the one who argues that her mother’s servitude attitudes toward motherhood and her fanatical stance on feminism tore her family apart. Her name is Rebecca Walker, and she counts herself blessed to be the sort of woman her mother despises – a mother. I think that is a point worth chewing on. Dare you to learn to speak the language of respect with your kids so that you avoid the teen rebellion stage, and launch them differently than the culture suggests as the only way. Perhaps you will find the joy Rebecca Walker has in motherhood.
I also venture to guess – and mind you, I might be wrong, but I’m guessing that throughout history, there have always been women who knew how to NOT be second-class citizens, regardless of where they worked, who they served, or what they did for a living. More on that another day. I’ll bet they knew how to speak the language of respect. 🙂
Double dog dare you to pick up the dialogue – but respectfully. Thoughts?