I remember watching “Little House on the Prairie” growing up. We didn’t have cable for a while, so when the show came on, it was one of our favorites. The show stood out amongst the hog reports, weather, and daytime dramas we sometimes were able to receive. I remember learning good values, crying with Mary and Laura over losses, and cheering with them for their victories. The Ingalls family represented Christian values and good relationships with others, how to handle conflict, and how to treat other people. Marriage issues were things that got worked through. The actors and actresses on the show were of healthy adult and human proportions. Stealing and gossiping were clearly wrong, as were attacks on women, children, and those less fortunate.
My, how things change.
ABC’s show, Good Christian B*&#$ , also known as “GCB,” provides yet but another opportunity for the world to communicate to our daughters that they are unworthy, fat, and unpopular unless they… (insert random negative female behaviors like gossiping, slander, promiscuity, etc., here).
As a Christian woman, something inside of me was repulsed by the portrayal of these women as supposedly representing my faith. Google for the trailer, if you haven’t seen it. Beware, however, as it’s sexually charged and inappropriate.
And just for the record, they don’t represent me, nor any of the Christian women I know.
Perhaps I’m sheltered, but of the thousands of people I’ve dealt with over the last 20 years, I’ve met a handful of females like this, and they were all 12-15 years old. Not one of the women who is capable of quoting Scripture like the women on GBC do behave this way.
And before you judge me as some archaic-minded fundamentalist ultra-conservative fuddy duddy, I’ll let you know that we spent some of the Daughters of Sarah class time yesterday talking about pursuing intimacy with our husbands.
And yes, I do believe that’s where sex belongs – in a marriage. But if you don’t believe with me about that, you won’t like anything else I have to say today either, so you might as well stop reading.
Whether ABC meant it as sarcastic humor or not, I don’t appreciate the use of Scripture and the depiction of women of faith as catty, self-absorbed, model-thin, and crass. Today, I saw one blogger who had a problem with the show, but also stated that it portrays truth, and that Christian women are accurately represented because we are a bunch of mean girls.
I will concede that like everyone else, I am a sinner. I am the poster child for grace. I’m far from perfect. Consider me on the record with that one.
The ladies I know who attend church and know the Bible like these girls do simply don’t behave this way. Not that Christians are any better than others – for the record, churches are hospitals for sinners, not display cases for saints. We are ALL hypocrites – imperfect and flawed, yes, but I’ve seriously never seen cattiness like this before outside of junior high and early high school.
The Christian women I know are helpful, will work hard to help those in need, and not selfish. They bring dinner when someone is hurting, take the kids so you can catch a nap when you have a new baby, and trim your hedges when you are disabled and your husband is traveling. They use their gifts to bring food to the hungry, gifts to the needy, and clothes to the cold. They show up when you are hurting just to silently hold your hand while you cry over the loss of your baby or the death of a loved one. They help move boxes, assemble manuals, collate papers, and pray with you when things are hard. A number of them are nurses for Hospice.
The Christian women I know (and I know a TON of Christian women, and yes, some of them are even from Texas!) are hard-working, beautiful women who love others well, even though they are flawed themselves.
How dare you, ABC, for portraying Christian women as anything other than that? How dare you insult my sisters this way. How very sad, indeed.
And I don’t care about the point of the show, either. You brought me into it when you chose the title.
What is missing from our media is shows that give an accurate perception of what real faith does in a person’s life. Something encouraging that could build up a family. A role model worth emulating. Not more garbage.
Like the Ingalls family, who struggled with various issues, faith doesn’t prevent your life from having flaws and keep suffering at bay. It does, however, provide you with a sense of security, safety, insight, and deeply rewarding and rich relationships with others in the faith – people who show up with Cookie Monster shirts, grocery and gas gift cards, and their very best stuffed animals and toys to comfort a class member whose home and all her belongings were destroyed by a tornado Friday night, just like my ten year old daughter’s writing class is doing.
So I’m not going to watch GCB. And I’m not watching it out of respect for myself, Christian women everywhere, and my Father in Heaven. Dare you to do the same. And I probably won’t shop their advertisers. I’m sure someone will email me with a list of them.
You know me pretty well by now…you know I don’t blog about politics or much that goes on in the world. I tend to not want to glorify those who add to the demise of our culture and society. I take this one a little personally, however, as it further damages women and is disrespectful to my Christian sisters everywhere.
I also can’t help but wonder if ABC would have made a show like this about Muslim women? Or Jewish women? Or Buddists?
I don’t know about you, but I don’t care if something is supposed to be “funny.” And yes, I have a sense of humor and can laugh at myself. I think God can be funny, too…flamingos, for example, are funny (backwards knee caps and all)…so are giraffes and platypuses.
But this show? Enough is enough.
I stand up today and say, “Shame on you, ABC.” Morally grounded movies are showing up again and are doing well in theaters. Why not jump on that bandwagon? You could have a positive impact on the world around you, instead of adding to the misery already present in our culture.
And just to be clear, I’m not an “angry Christian.” I’m disappointed with the promulgation of lies about Christian women and women in general. We do not need more examples of bad women to show our daughters – but rather, strong women of strength and dignity need to be on TV.
So today, I’m daring you to not watch the show, and double-dog-daring you to let your local station know this, and triple-dog-daring you to let ABC know you aren’t watching the show or buying from its advertisers.
Oh, and while you are at it, don’t add to other problems of misunderstanding – be respectful, gentle, and kind, yes, even NICE, when you let them know. It makes all the difference in the world when you want to be taken seriously.
Saying nothing communicates we actually endorse behavior.
If you’ll excuse me, I need to contact ABC.
Thankful to be on the journey with you.
UPDATE: A reader sent me this. Thought I’d pass it along: http://www.onemillionmoms.com/IssueDetail.asp?id=440