Getting Your Man (or Men) To Do What You Asked Them To Do…

My teenage son clarified something this week that has, in the past, frequently confused me as a woman. I shared with him how I received an email from someone organizing refreshments for a recital. The email basically said, “If you feel like you want to help, it would be greatly appreciated if you signed up […]

Her Looks Just Weren’t Enough…

Her loud voice carried several aisles over…”You didn’t even look this up, you were supposed to check online. I can’t count on you for anything!” I came around the corner and found myself staring at a physically beautiful woman with a baby stroller, standing with her husband in front of a line of vacuum cleaners […]

When Communicating with Men…

His eyes literally looked glazed over. 3 minutes into the conversation, my husband had no idea what I was talking about. Deer in headlights. My fault. I knew better. Men speak an average of 10,000 words on a given day, most of which are at work. Women are around 40,000. So when he gets home, […]

I Need and Want a Strong Loving Man…You?

Yesterday, in one of my son’s high school PEP classes, the teacher discussed an ancient culture. When asked how this very old society viewed women, my son answered correctly, that the culture looked at men as superior because they were physically stronger. He didn’t say he agreed or disagreed with this position, he just simply stated […]

It Was Easy To Just Walk Out…

Last night, in the middle of a parenting class, I left. My 10 year old called me. “Mommy, I’m getting a migraine.” I make it a point to not be “the only one” who can do what we do in ministry, and so because the team didn’t need my help with the class (they’re quite […]

Want Some Gasoline with Your Fire?

“I don’t know what to do,” I whined to my mom. “She keeps going ‘thbbbbbpppt’ in my face and spraying me with spit. I just hate it.” “Slap her,” she said. Shocked at this suggestion, I winced at the thought. “You must slap this girl. Full across the face. HARD. She will keep doing this […]

What’s the Difference between Being Disrespectful and Being Helpful?

We pulled into the church parking lot a few minutes late yesterday. The husband of a friend of ours walked with his kids behind us, calling out to my husband. They were visiting our church. They also weren’t frequent attenders. He and his sons were without his wife, as she was working the weekend. The […]

I Want What I Want When I Want it..You?

Years ago, when I was HR director for a manufacturing company, one of our top candidates was also interviewing at our competitor’s company. I remember the VP of Operations telling me, “Offer him more money. Everyone has their price.” While I can’t remember now if we got the candidate, I do remember that phrase, and […]

Has the D-Word Entered Your Mind?

I spent the first seven years of my marriage jockeying for position. I thought I should be in charge, and just like those before me, I found marriage pathetically lacking and unrewarding. Disappointed, I wondered why. I had it all – nice house (we’d upsized already), fabulous part-time career, awesome social network, sweet little boy, […]

A Secret to Turning Your Marriage Around…

We broke open our piggy banks and dug coins out of the couch cushions to put the down payment on a house the year we were married. We literally scraped together enough to buy the house, but had to paint it for it to qualify for the FHA loan. We cashed in savings, dug the quarters, […]