Welcome to The Respect Dare Blog

Maybe you've done Daughters of Sarah or The Respect Dare and are looking to keep growing. Maybe you want to have a healthy relationship with God, yourself, and others and are having trouble discerning what the Truth is from all the messages out there.

Do you wonder about submission, or having healthy boundaries? Join us. We're following the One Who has the answers (and it's not me, BTW! LOL!).

I am so glad you are here!

Love to you,
-Nina

Please join me on the journey:

My Pastor Harpooned Me…

Dare you to stop building walls in your

I've never actually been whale-style harpooned, but God used my pastor last week to do something that felt close... And it was exactly what I needed. We sat in his office, my husband and I, working through a situation that had wounded us both. While I can be good at helping our kids navigate Continue Reading

Submissive Wife? Will it Save Her Marriage?

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A friend of mine tried everything to save her marriage. She is what any mature Christian woman would call a "submissive wife" - know there's a difference between that and being a doormat. More here if it's confusing. And no, I'm not talking about writing up a contract to allow some guy to whip Continue Reading

What You Want … 2014 Reader Survey Results

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We have the 2014 Reader Survey Results! And, if you keep reading til the end, you'll find a free copy of the Small Group Leader Guide for The Respect Dare (Thomas Nelson, 2012) AND an opportunity for YOU! :) In an effort to make sure I'm loving you the way you want to be loved here on the blog Continue Reading

2 Wise Women We Want to Be When We Grow Up…

A woman of strength and dignity is a

There's probably a ton more than 2 wise women we should attempt to be like. I don't know about you, but I have some wise women friends that just blow my mind with how mature they are. One of my friends is going through a hard time right now. Her husband did something awful. I'm not going to Continue Reading

Top 10 Ways to Destroy Your Marriage

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Few people probably Google "ways to destroy my marriage," but we all need to pay attention to some marriage-destroying communication behaviors. Sometimes we learn from knowing what NOT to do. :) Bear in mind, I'm not one given to sarcasm, and this post is literally dripping with it. I hope you Continue Reading

3 Reasons I’m A Lousy Lover and So Are You

Growth occurs most often when we do our

So back in October? Maybe? I confessed to God that I didn’t know how to love Him well. Yes, I had relationship with Him. Yes, I read the Bible daily. Yes, I prayed, AND listened. But still, I wanted more...I wanted the deep, intimate, wonder, awe, friend, father, and romance relationship with Him as Continue Reading

Three Important Times to NOT Speak…

People are only interested in

"I need a week," I told him. "I want to talk about this well, and right now, I just can't." One of my teens needed to discuss something super important...life-changing-style important...but I'd lost so much sleep and been emotionally keyed up for so long, I knew I wouldn't do it well. Knew I'd Continue Reading

Four Reasons to Stop Saying “I’m Fine.”

STOP saying _I'm Fine._

I've been putting off writing this for a while. I haven't known how to talk about it. I'm not sure that I even know how to now, but I want to regardless. This is just a part of the story. SO. Here goes... Several weeks ago, I sat in an eye clinic lobby at the University of Iowa Hospital.  Continue Reading

Thank You…

God IS Good.

I walked down the hall of the hospital, the green-grey walls and fluorescent lighting sucking the life out of me. Heading toward a restaurant aptly named, “Au Bon Pain” which is supposed to mean, “The Good Bread” or something in French, I saw her. Crying Girl. The fourth or fifth crying woman Continue Reading

We Will Never Know…

Enjoy the NOW you are in...

Romans 11:33-36 Doxology 33 Oh, the depth of the riches of the wisdom and knowledge of God! How unsearchable his judgments, and his paths beyond tracing out!  34 "Who has known the mind of the Lord? Or who has been his counselor?"  35 "Who has ever given to God, that God should repay him?"  36 Continue Reading