Welcome to The Respect Dare Blog

Maybe you've done Daughters of Sarah or The Respect Dare and are looking to keep growing. Maybe you want to have a healthy relationship with God, yourself, and others and are having trouble discerning what the Truth is from all the messages out there.

Do you wonder about submission, or having healthy boundaries? Join us. We're following the One Who has the answers (and it's not me, BTW! LOL!).

I am so glad you are here!

Love to you,
-Nina

Please join me on the journey:

3 Reasons I’m A Lousy Lover and So Are You

Growth occurs most often when we do our

So back in October? Maybe? I confessed to God that I didn’t know how to love Him well. Yes, I had relationship with Him. Yes, I read the Bible daily. Yes, I prayed, AND listened. But still, I wanted more...I wanted the deep, intimate, wonder, awe, friend, father, and romance relationship with Him as Continue Reading

Three Important Times to NOT Speak…

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"I need a week," I told him. "I want to talk about this well, and right now, I just can't." One of my teens needed to discuss something super important...life-changing-style important...but I'd lost so much sleep and been emotionally keyed up for so long, I knew I wouldn't do it well. Knew I'd Continue Reading

Four Reasons to Stop Saying “I’m Fine.”

STOP saying _I'm Fine._

I've been putting off writing this for a while. I haven't known how to talk about it. I'm not sure that I even know how to now, but I want to regardless. This is just a part of the story. SO. Here goes... Several weeks ago, I sat in an eye clinic lobby at the University of Iowa Hospital.  Continue Reading

Thank You…

God IS Good.

I walked down the hall of the hospital, the green-grey walls and fluorescent lighting sucking the life out of me. Heading toward a restaurant aptly named, “Au Bon Pain” which is supposed to mean, “The Good Bread” or something in French, I saw her. Crying Girl. The fourth or fifth crying woman Continue Reading

We Will Never Know…

Enjoy the NOW you are in...

Romans 11:33-36 Doxology 33 Oh, the depth of the riches of the wisdom and knowledge of God! How unsearchable his judgments, and his paths beyond tracing out!  34 "Who has known the mind of the Lord? Or who has been his counselor?"  35 "Who has ever given to God, that God should repay him?"  36 Continue Reading

Do you ever wish he was dead?

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If your marriage is a mess, or even just difficult, have you ever wished he was dead? Have you ever wondered if you'd even miss your husband if he died? Or are you comfortable in your anger and hurt and can't wrap your brain around the thought? Maybe like me, you also take a lot for Continue Reading

What do you do with a heavy heart?

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A heaviness set in our hearts when “3-4 years from now, let’s just monitor things,” became “probably this summer.” An even deeper sink occurred when “probably this summer,” became, “the surgeon needs to see the test results, and you need to talk to him.” We had the strangest of conversations Continue Reading

3 Tips to Finding Joy in Suffering

At first, it’s a choice – a choice to

Sitting in the sanctuary with about 1000 people yesterday during "open mic," I prayed, "If you want me to say something, Lord, You'll need to calm my heart. I really don't want to get up and do this." I seldom get nervous about speaking in public, but for some reason, He and I sometimes have the Continue Reading

What Are YOU Waiting For?

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My mind was elsewhere, and I looked at her. I saw my friend and coworker's mouth moving, and couldn't answer the question she was asking. It was something about upcoming possibilities with the ministry, but because it was a future situation, all I could think about was how dramatically different Continue Reading

We ALL Need Heart Surgery…

Enjoy the NOW you are in...

We have an update from my husband's recent cardiology visit. So I've been walking around with my own heart caught in my throat for about a week. Do you remember that feeling? When I think of my childhood and the bullying, this is the feeling I remember most. Tears flow easily. Fear Continue Reading